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This is my letter to angry fanboys.
First, let it be known that I love most fanboys. When I go to a con, most of the guys there are respectful. They share a passion with me, and that’s awesome. We’re all on a rock floating through space with little connection to most of the people who surround us, so anything that allows us to bond is fantastic.
What I don’t love are angry fanboys…
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(Source: hawkandhandsaw-az, via lawfulgoodpaladog)
This is just your friendly reminder that men use the term friend-zone to rape women and you are NOT, as a man, allowed to reclaim it.
Period.
Even if you’ve heard a woman use the phrase once.
When shit like this exists (HUGE TRIGGER WARNING FOR RAPE), you lose your right to throw this word around.
If you choose to use it, you are an asshole who supports rape culture.
Please, please, please stop.
Check your damn privilege as a female who will never experience the friend zone.
I don’t think you understand - a majority of men do not think it is okay to rape and if you’re getting butthurt over a damned rage comic, then get the fuck off the internet.
Females don’t fucking understand the frustration, the depression and the desperation of the friend zone. It’s the worst goddamned place to be - especially if you’re lead on.
Seriously. Check your fucking privilege.
The experiences of raped women > men’s feelings of disappointment
OMG Jenna, did some asshole seriously just tell you to check your privilege for calling out rape culture?!
Will no one think of the Nice Guys in the friend zone? THEIR PAIN IS THE WORST PAIN.
I…uh…I need a drink. WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE?
“Check your damn privilege as a female who will never experience the friend zone.”
I do not think that word means what you think it means.
OLOL what the actual fuck.
My favorite part about the whole mythology of the Friend Zone is that all of the guys who complain about it seem to think that women don’t also get ‘Friend Zoned’. They do. All the time. It frustrates them and hurts their feelings, too.
The difference is that women are conditioned to believe that when they are sexually rejected it’s because they are FUNDAMENTALLY UNATTRACTIVE in some way. (See: Every teen makeover romantic comedy ever made.) Most women do not feel entitled to sex from a man just because they’re friends, or she’s ‘nice’ to him, or she buys him gifts, or whatever. Rejection gets internalized as “There must be something wrong with me.” rather than expressed as anger at (and wishes of potential violence against) the person who won’t date/have sex/whatever with them.
The whole concept is inherently misogynistic. Because women getting rejected in these scenarios are still seeing men as people with their own agency and desires, and men are seeing women as sex robots who aren’t working right.
(Source: greaterandmoreterrible)
"Patriarchy is not men. Patriarchy is a system in which both women and men participate. It privileges, inter alia, the interests of boys and men over the bodily integrity, autonomy, and dignity of girls and women. It is subtle, insidious, and never more dangerous than when women passionately deny that they themselves are engaging in it. This abnormal obsession with women’s faces and bodies has become so normal that we (I include myself at times—I absolutely fall for it still) have internalized patriarchy almost seamlessly. We are unable at times to identify ourselves as our own denigrating abusers, or as abusing other girls and women."
Ashley Judd, in an article on body-snarking by the media (via radiumradiator)
(Source: lunaseas, via littlewendycat)
"Enough ladies. I get it. You have periods."
Two and a Half Men co-creator Lee Aronsohn’s tells THR he doesn’t much care for lady-centric sitcoms. (via newsweek)
He applauded women like Whitney Cummings, Chelsea Handler and Tina Fey securing a voice to discuss formerly taboo subjects on TV.
“But we’re approaching peak vagina on television, the point of labia saturation,” he added.
The current female TV boom contrasts with Two and a Half Men mostly portraying women as bimbos, something Aronsohn isn’t about to apologize for.
“Screw it… We’re centering the show on two very damaged men. What makes men damaged? Sorry, it’s women. I never got my heart broken by a man,” Aronsohn earlier told the Toronto conference during a keynote address.
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#ENOUGH DUDES. WE GET IT. YOU MASTURBATE. #ENOUGH DUDES. WE GET IT. YOU LIKE GETTING YOUR DICK SUCKED. #ENOUGH DUDES. WE GET IT. YOUR WIFE WITHHOLDS SEX. #ENOUGH DUDES. WE GET IT. #NO REALLY. #ENOUGH DUDES. #DONE. #WITH. #THEM.
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Is it really surprising when his show helped to relaunch the career of that misogynist dick infection?
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On a somewhat serious note today because of a conversation the other day:
I am sure every girl can recall, at least once as a child, coming home and telling their parents, uncle, aunt or grandparent about a boy who had pulled her hair, hit her, teased her, pushed her or committed some other playground crime. I will bet money that most of those, if not all, will tell you that they were told “Oh, that just means he likes you”. I never really thought much about it before having a daughter of my own. I find it appalling that this line of bullshit is still being fed to young children. Look, if you want to tell your child that being verbally and/or physically abused is an acceptable sign of affection, i urge you to rethink your parenting strategy. If you try and feed MY daughter that crap, you better bring protective gear because I am going to shower you with the brand of “affection” you are endorsing.
When the fuck was it decided that we should start teaching our daughters to accept being belittled, disrespected and abused as endearing treatment? And we have the audacity to wonder why women stay in abusive relationships? How did society become so oblivious to the fact that we were conditioning our daughters to endure abusive treatment, much less view it as romantic overtures? Is this where the phrase “hitting on girls” comes from? Well, here is a tip: Save the “it’s so cute when he gets hateful/physical with her because it means he loves her” asshattery for your own kids, not mine. While you’re at it, keep them away from my kids until you decide to teach them respect and boundaries.
My daughter is `10 years old and has come home on more than one occasion recounting an incident at school in which she was teased or harassed by a male classmate. There has been several times when someone that she was retelling the story to responded with the old, “that just means he likes you” line. Wrong. I want my daughter to know that being disrespected is NEVER acceptable. I want my daughter to know that if someone likes her and respects her, much less LOVES her, they don’t hurt her and they don’t put her down. I want my daughter to know that the boy called her ugly or pushed her or pulled her hair didn’t do it because he admires her, it is because he is a little asshole and assholes are an occurrence of society that will have to be dealt with for the rest of her life. I want my daughter to know how to deal with assholes she will encounter throughout her life. For now, I want my daughter to know that if someone is verbally harassing her, she should tell the teacher and if the teacher does nothing, she should tell me. If someone physically touches her, tell the teacher then, if it continues, to yell, “STOP TOUCHING/PUNCHING/PUSHING ME” in the middle of class or the hallway, then tell me. Last year, one little boy stole her silly bandz from her. He just grabbed her and yanked a handful of them off of her wrist. When I went to the school to address the incident, the teacher smiled and explained it away to her, in front of me, “he probably has a crush on you”. Okay, the boy walked up to my daughter, grabbed and held her by the arm and forcibly removed her bracelets from her as she struggled and you want to convince her that she should be flattered? Fuck off. I am going to punch you in the face but I hope you realize it is just my way of thanking you for the great advice you gave my daughter. If these same advice givers’ sons came home crying because another male classmate was pushing them, pulling their hair, hitting them or calling them names, I would bet dollars to donuts they would tell him to defend themselves and kick the kid’s ass, if necessary. They sure as shit wouldn’t say, “he probably just wants a play date”.
I will teach my daughter to accept nothing less than respect. Anyone who hurts her physically or emotionally doesn’t deserve her respect, friendship or love. I will teach my boys the same thing as well as the fact that hitting on girls doesn’t involve hitting girls. I can’t teach my daughter to respect herself if I am teaching her that no one else has to respect her. I can’t raise sons that respect women, if I teach them that bullying is a valid expression of affection.
The next time that someone offers up that little “secret” to my daughter, I am going to slap the person across the face and yell, “I LOVE YOU”.
"You Didn’t Thank Me For Punching You in the Face « Views from the Couch (via golden-notebook)
A very good post on casual sexism and the asshole apologists who defend it.
(via stfuapologists)
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What is all this “ideal” bullshit? Here’s an idea, stop telling women what they should and shouldn’t be. I’m a size 0, I have friends who range from 4 to 18. I think we’re all pretty fucking hot. And anyone who dares tell any of us we need to go up or down in our sizes can kindly bend over while I shove my foot up their ass.
Hey, women? This is what men want you to look like. Actually, fuck that. Who gives a fuck what this person or that person apparently wants? Since when does another person’s wants warrant YOU changing? You wouldn’t change your personality for someone; so don’t change your body either. If someone doesn’t like you for who you are, then fuck them. You can do better.
Another thing about this is that yes, this women are all those sizes, but they’re also the hourglass figure of those sizes. Women come in all shapes. You’ve got apple shapes, pear shapes, hourglass shapes, straight shapes, round shapes, and everything in-between. I’m a size twelve, but my hips are higher and my belly pudges more than that “men’s ideal”. I don’t look like that.
So, basically, it shouldn’t fucking matter. A woman is a woman, whether she is six feet and 110 lbs or five foot and 210 lbs.
Yes all this for real. Where is this data even coming from? Who is determining what the “ideal” of all men and all women are? Someone cite me a study or I call bullshit.
Also, someone please cite me the study where it was determined that a woman’s body (including size, shape, fitness, skin quality, personal grooming, etc) is anyone’s business but her own. Or that the attractiveness of all female people is based solely on physical characteristics. God damn.
Just out of curiosity. Are my roommate and I the only people in the world who really liked (500) Days of Summer because we read it as an exquisitely-crafted satire of romantic comedies based on the fact that Summer was the stereotype of a Manic Pixie Dreamgirl and Tom was an ultimate Nice Guy asshole?
I mean, it genuinely didn’t occur to me at any point when or after I saw it that it was ever meant to be taken as-is (since the narrator was biased) or that Summer was really supposed to be read as the ‘bad guy’. And it has been baffling me for years when people talk about how misogynistic it is, because I’ve always thought that that was the whole point.
HAVE I BEEN HORRIBLY WRONG THIS WHOLE TIME? ARE WE ACTUALLY SUPPOSED TO SIDE WITH TOM? IS IT NOT SATIRE?
Or is there some other issue that I’m just spectacularly failing to get?
…this was exactly how I saw it.
Yes.
I mean, I would still warn some one before going into it because there are some aspects that could be totally triggering, satire or no, but yeah.
Basically, I saw it as total satire because how can it not be???
Oh god, I only never saw it as a satire because literally everyone around me saw it as-is and loved it! And felt bad for the Nice Guy(tm) etc etc etc. (including my boyfriend, ugh SO DISAPPOINTED). I fucking hate the characters so much by now, I don’t think I could rewatch even as a satire without shuddering and raging and eye-rolling through the whole thing.
Wow. Okay. Had I been surrounded by people who genuinely read it straight AND sympathized with Tom AND loved it in that context, I’m sure I would be equally horrified. In that case, your reaction (and probably the bulk of people criticizing it) makes total sense.
I guess I’m really just amazed that people exist who aren’t totally creeped out by someone who is so obviously a misogynistic Nice Guy, although I know enough privileged nerds and hipsters that I probably shouldn’t be. Holy carp.
Just out of curiosity. Are my roommate and I the only people in the world who really liked (500) Days of Summer because we read it as an exquisitely-crafted satire of romantic comedies based on the fact that Summer was the stereotype of a Manic Pixie Dreamgirl and Tom was an ultimate Nice Guy asshole?
I mean, it genuinely didn’t occur to me at any point when or after I saw it that it was ever meant to be taken as-is (since the narrator was biased) or that Summer was really supposed to be read as the ‘bad guy’. And it has been baffling me for years when people talk about how misogynistic it is, because I’ve always thought that that was the whole point.
HAVE I BEEN HORRIBLY WRONG THIS WHOLE TIME? ARE WE ACTUALLY SUPPOSED TO SIDE WITH TOM? IS IT NOT SATIRE?
Or is there some other issue that I’m just spectacularly failing to get?
it’s funny until you realize the sheer number of cis men who think that this is actually how women’s minds work
(Source: lemonclanarchive, via lawfulgoodpaladog)
